Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Surrendering creates the deepest trust between Dom and Sub







Welcome to my blog… “Bianca Surrenders” a more telling name than that of our website, so here I am, Bianca Surrenders.  Yes, I do, to Sean, Spirit, My Higher Self !!  So “surrendering” caught my imagination early on in my relationship with Sean, since 1986. He hired me to consult his business, we fell in love and he demoted himself to Vice President when he offered me a full time position and title of President which I accepted.  Thus our public life appeared that I was demanded of him. Yet at home, in our sex life, Sean was the demanding one, with surrendering required from me. No problem, easy, right, wrong… it required an entirely new way of thinking.  I had to take on new attitudes and release beliefs trapped in my mindset that surrendering meant losing power or giving something up, weakness, acquiescing to authority.  
  
Ladies, Gents… none of what “surrender” appeared to be was what I've found from bondage sex.  Instead I’m present to:  “allowing another to direct me”, “offering up my trust to another”, “willingness to respond--feel--the sensations of this earthsuit my spirit/soul dwells within…”  clearly there is much to learn about bondage and surrendering.

Saturday went as planned, I consulted with a client in the afternoon, prepared a wonderful late supper and was enjoying some DVR+watching until Sean returned from his errands.  He entered and noticed immediately how lit I was and said, “You had a great appointment, I can see it on your face!”  I said, “Yes, having someone open to their heart and being intimate… what’s better.  My client went home open and available, with homework to do with his wife.”

“Good”, he replied, “then you’re ready for us to take a shower and reconvene in the bedroom.” Sean continued, “I’ve got something in mind, a fantasy, I’d love to play out with our new SCANDAL products and some ropes and restraints…”   I burst out with “No, Sean, remember our agreement… no more than two new items added to our usual suspects for any one sexcapade.”  He grunted, “Okay”.  
 
I wore white fishnet stockings and a white teddy Sean likes.  He wore a pair of fishnet underwear with a black silk shirt… yum.  When I came into the bedroom, he handed me a glass of wine and told me to sit on the  bed.  We sipped and talked until the intimacy was palpable. Then he put his glass down and picked up the Scandal  Bondage Strap Cuffs, click

To spare the stockings from the Velcro, he sensuously removed one than the other and put my ankles in place. He took my glass, put it on the bedside table and took my wrists, strapping them next to my ankles.  The sight of his hardness as he strapped me in made me feel so powerful.  He admired his bindings, teasingly fingering the arch of my back, the nape of my neck,   After I begged for my arms back, he unstrapped them and applied Scandal’s Brocade Bed Bondage Wrist Restraints instead. 



Sean whispered, “lie back” as he placed the SCANDAL Sash-Tied Bar Gag click with the flexible black bar between my teeth and tied the sash behind my neck.   Having that gag on deterred me from enunciating any words that wanted to escape my mouth—sounds yes, but words, no. 

We have tried many a gag, and I have resisted them all until this new one came. I felt a wild sense of freedom, don’t ask me why, but I did. Just recounting the event makes me hot.


 Sean bound my wrists to our underbed restraint system click  and then began stroking my limbs, then my breasts… my moans only made him more amorous, and then he stroked my pussy and before I could take another breath to slow things down, I came like a wild woman…. He could wait no longer and jumped on for the ride of our lives as my orgasm took us some where we’d never been before. He rode me like a young man rides a bronco, hard and strong and he came loudly as I clenched to hold him tightly.  
  

We must have laid in bed and giggled for the longest time after we were spent.  We were both so fulfilled. Anyway, we had a wonderful date Saturday night, followed by seared salmon with shredded brussel sprouts. We highly recommend our new toys.

Play hard, play nice.   love, Bianca

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